Sex Coaching

As part of my broader sex services I offer a range of sexual education and coaching services. This help clients with a diverse range of issues and needs. I’ve got extensive experience in sexual services, and have training is remedial massage, embodiment, and somatic sexology. Coaching can be included within my baseline massage service or in full sex coaching sessions.

Here are some more details about what coaching could include.

  • Sex Coaching

    I provide hands on sex coaching for individuals and couples to improve sexual technique, pleasure, communication, understanding and recovery. I have experience treating sexual issues such as premature or delayed ejaculation, inability to orgasm, recovery from sexual trauma and gender transition. Coaching is also great if you missed out on key sex ed growing up, if you’re sexually inexperienced, if you’re lacking a bit of confidence or if you’re struggling with sexual communication. I can coach you to better understand male and female anatomy and physiological sexual responses, erogenous zones, sexual body language and cues, and how to verbally get and sustain mutual consent during sex.

  • Intimacy Coaching

    Intimacy coaching helps people feel safer, closer and more connected to sexual partners. It’s useful for issues with physical and emotional intimacy and to help couples or individuals learn the skills needed to promote sexual and emotional safety. I can help you improve your sexual and emotional communication during sex as well as unpack any issues which might be introducing blockers to great sexual experiences. It’s also highly useful if you just want to improve your sexual confidence, knowledge and experience. I can work with you as an individual or as a couple.

  • Somatic Bodywork

    Somatic bodywork is an emerging field that includes embodiment practices that enhance the mind’s interactions with bodily function to induce relaxation and improve overall health and wellbeing. It involves hands-on bodywork, breathwork, massage, guided meditation, education, and physiological awareness. There’s a growing body of evidence supporting embodiment and somatic practices as a way of treating physical and emotional symptoms and improving coping strategies for physical and sexual issues and chronic conditions. Daily practice is essential for deriving benefit.

What is sex coaching

The sex coaching I provide combines educational and assessment approaches with hands-on sexological bodywork to treat underlying sexual issues. Traditional sex therapy aims to treat sexual issues by dealing with the psychological component, with less focus on the physiological processes which may be contributing. Conversely, medical approaches tend to prioritise the body and ignore the mind. Both approaches have merit but for some people they just don’t work as they’re largely applied in isolation from one another. Sex therapy can also be difficult to achieve real world outcomes for those who do not have current sexual partners. That’s where sex coaching comes in. I use a range of techniques and approaches to treat sexual issues including massage, sexological bodywork, sexual baselining and education. I help clients build sexual technique, knowledge and confidence through graduated exposure to positive sexual experiences. I provide a safe, non-judgemental and nurturing environment in which my clients can come to a better understanding of their sexual self, improve and recover.

How I do it

Sex coaching is usually a combination of talking, relaxation therapies, embodiment / somatic practices such as breathwork and body scan and practical sex work. It involves some talking to get to know you and your situation, guided meditation to improve your conscious awareness of your physical, mental and emotional bodies and some sex work based on your limits. The combination and approaches applied varies depending on your situation, preferences and the treating issue, so I’ll work with you to find what works best. It can be combined with more intimate sex work if there is therapeutic value or be provided with my baseline massage service. For new clients I normally start with this service level.

How it helps

Some of the issues that sex coaching is useful for include: low libido and arousal, erectile functional issues, lack of orgasm for men or women, lack of sexual desire, sexual phobias, as well as recovery from bad sexual experiences and un-learning of destructive sexual attitudes and belief systems.

I normally recommend 2-3 sessions for simple issues and 6-12 for more complex issues.

What to expect

An initial consultation is 1.5hrs, during which I’ll take a detailed history from you and come to an understanding of your goals and desires. From there I do what I refer to as a sexual baselining which involves erotic massage techniques to determine your baseline sexual response (I do take into account first session nerves in this). For some clients I might stop the session with sensual massage only and not take it any further. At the end of the session I’ll chat with you about where I think you’re at sexually based on what you’ve told me and what happens in the session and we’ll chart a course together for further sessions. For some clients this might involve de-sensitisation or re-sensitisation treatments.